Grooming Your Child’s Natural Hair

When it comes to the hair of children, I have some strong beliefs based on my own personal experience and my belief that every child deserves to have healthy hair.   In the May 2010 issue of Ebony Magazine, I give advice on some of the basics for insuring that your child’s hair grows healthy and beautiful naturally.  Some of my basic protocols for a child’s hair are as follows:

  • Use a quality plastic wide tooth comb to comb through your child’s hair.  A wide tooth comb will prevent snagging the hair.
  • Do not shampoo the hair more  than once a week unless the child is swimming in salt or chlorine water
  • Always use conditioner following each shampoo.
  • After a shampoo part the hair in large sections and twist or braid it for better manageability before the hair dries
  • Use a light natural oil, such as Anu Essentials hair oils to moisturize the hair and scalp
  • Do not use chemical straighteners on the hair of any child under 15 years of age – preferably not at all
  • Avoid using extensions on children under 15 years of age
  • Tell your child that their hair is naturally beautiful and demonstrate this positive idea to them via your own hair choices

I have often taken the liberty of handing out  my business cards to white adoptive parents of black children.  Most recently,  images of Khamit Kinks Kiddy Styles were used to familiarize adoptive parents with hair choices for their adoptive children, by The Cradle Adoptive services in Evanston, IL.

For more information check out our the May 2010 issue of Ebony Magazine, our feature is on page 51.  And please pass them information on to anyone you know is trying to figure out their child’s naturally kinky hair.

Are you having a difficult time with your child’s hair?  If so, remember to Ask Anu.  And let us know your thoughts.

10 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Shelia Whetstone on June 11, 2010 at 9:40 am

    My 9 year old daughter is suffering from breakage in the back and sides of her hair. I have used Dr. Miracle, Nourish and Shine and organic root stimulator. I am seeing very slow results. She swims once a week. I always wash her hair with a clarifying shampoo and condtion once a week with a deep condiotioner every two weeks. What else can I do to ensure that her hair is restored and develope healthy growth
    Thank you


    • Dear Sheila,
      I am not clear about why your daughter’s hair is coming out. Is it since she started swimming. Or is it something that started before that. I would recommend you take her to a dermatologist to find out the cause of her hair loss. In the meantime, perhaps put a scarf on her head before putting on the swimming cap, because the rubber from the cap could further exacerbate her condition. Also I would recommend massaging our natural Medicinal hair oil on her scalp every other day.


  2. Posted by Nikki on June 30, 2010 at 11:46 am

    Very good article! It is almost refreshing to hear a stylist to advise that chemical straighteners should not be used in children. My daughters are 6 & 7 and have never had chemicals or heat on their heads. They both have hair that stretches to their waist and beyond.

    I do have a question though. My daughters have never ever had a trim. They have no split ends or damaged ends. Do they need a trim?

    I hope many parents take the much needed advice offered in your informative article.


    • Hi Nikki,
      Thank you for the compliment. Our children should know learn to know and love their natural texture of hair. I meet women everyday who don’t remember what their texture is like and have no idea what they would do with it since they’ve had chemical relaxers for so long.

      If your daughters have no split or damaged ends then I’d say you don’t have to trim. But I would recommend you take them in to see a reputable Stylist in person for further confirmation of this.

      Thanks again!


  3. Posted by A Perry on July 27, 2010 at 1:21 pm

    Hi Anu,
    Thank you for providing a forum for discussing natural hair care for children. I have a question regarding restoring my almost three-year-old’s natural hair. Before this summer, I was primarily caring for her hair myself using many of the tips/techniques that you highlighted in your article. As a result (or possibly genetics), she has always had a head full of thick hair. Well, I sent her down to a relatives for a month this summer. I provided specific instructions on what we do/don’t do to my daughter’s hair which were promptly disregarded. Now that my daughter is back at home, she has patches in the right interior and back middle where her hair has clearly been pulled out and damaged. And, the hair along her hairline is definitely shorter and thinner than it was. I am extremely upset because I’ve always been very good about keeping her and my son’s hair healthy and also about teaching them to love their ‘kinky’ hair, and I wanted to know what you recommend for restoring her hair. The patches are not bald so I don’t think her hair has been pulled out from the root. And, no one who didn’t know her before would even realize the extent of the damage since she has so much hair. I’m worried about the damage becoming worse as her hair now seems a lot weaker in general. Do you think it’s best to cut her hair into a really short bush and start over with my normal routine, or do you think that it’s possible to keep the length (about 7″ to 9″ inches which allows me to hide/cover up the damaged areas) and repair her hair? Any thoughts that you have would be appreciated. If before/after pictures would be helpful, please let me know and I can email some. Regards.


    • Dear Ms. Perry,
      It’s really unfortunate that your daughter is having this experience at such a young age. It would be best if I could see before and after pictures of her hair. Please be sure to take clear close ups of the damaged areas. Send the pics to


  4. Posted by LEISHA on November 29, 2010 at 7:54 pm

    hi im not a parent but my name is wileisha i just turned 11 and a couple of months ago my hair got damage my hair dresser said it will take about a year to get back healthy and long so thats why im getting braids but i need a cute hair due quick by tomorrow i wounder what i should get can u help me decide please. oh and my hair is growing back at first i was scared but now im not so im making my own little novel called short hair dont care and its about kids who have damage hair lol well u prob have alot of people want to message you so im going to end this message. OK BYE PLEASE REMEMBER TO WRITE ME BACK SOME HAIR STYLES SOON THANKS FOR YOUR INFO!!!!!!!!


    • Dear Leisha,
      I was around your age when my hair was damaged by a chemical and had to be cut all off and that is why I have never had a chemical process since that time. I am sorry to hear you have had this experience. There are so many options for styles that you could have to help your hair to grow back. Is it possible for your mother to bring you into the salon so we can see your hair? Do you live in the New York area? If not, then please send us some pictures of how your hair looks now and we will then set up an appointment for a consultation.

      I love the idea about your book. You should go for it! I think it would be a number best seller.


  5. Posted by LEISHA on November 29, 2010 at 8:00 pm

    by the way my hair is to my shoulders is that short? i think it is but it grew when it was damage it was to my neck i just cant wait till it grows even longer k see ya later!!!!!!!!!!!!!11


    • Leisha, everybody’s idea of what is short and what is long is different. To some shoulder length hair would be long because their hair has never been that long. To others that might seem short because their hair has been much longer. It really depends on the person.


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